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Category: on Harm & Reciprocity

a black and white photo of a protest. the person in the forefront has dark skin and a microphone. there is a sign on the left that reads "If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor."
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capitalism makes no sense to me

Posted on July 11, 2023 by Nix Kelley

When I reject the concept that exploitation of people or resources is just, it becomes antithetical to believe that any of us should put anyone else in a positi...

a rocket flies across the evening sky over an ocean, upward from left to right
on Chosen Family/on Decolonizing/on Harm & Reciprocity/on Hope/on Praxis

should we go back to where we started?

Posted on May 9, 2023 by Nix Kelley

We need to learn how to put down the weapons of our thoughts and voices that lead us to separate ourselves from one another.

three round hay bales in a foggy field
on Chosen Family/on Chronic Illness/on Deathwork & Griefwork/on Decolonizing/on Harm & Reciprocity/on Mental Health/on Queerness/the Pandemic

I write what hurts my feelings

Posted on April 25, 2023 by Nix Kelley

The pain leads me to what is true.

a pink paper heart ripped in the middle, hanging on a red and white striped wire against a black background
on Deathwork & Griefwork/on Generational Trauma/on Harm & Reciprocity/on Hope/on Queerness

I dream of disappointing my mother

Posted on December 11, 2022 by Nix Kelley

I had a bad dream which was trying to be a good dream, but it was a bad dream because none of it is true.

written in white chalk on pavement are the words 'TOGETHER WE WILL CHANGE THE WORLD'
on Harm & Reciprocity/on Praxis

the math of harm

Posted on November 10, 2022 by Nix Kelley

Doing the math of harm doesn’t mean that I get to disconnect myself from my choice once I’ve made it.

a child reaching through a hole in a wall, stretching out an arm and making eye contact with the camera
on being Exvangelical/on Decolonizing/on Harm & Reciprocity/on Hope/on Praxis/the Work

I could only lead you so far

Posted on October 2, 2022 by Nix Kelley

Do you know what it feels like to be believed in? Have you experienced the incredible fortune of knowing that you matter?

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Nix Kelley
Nix Kelley
Genderqueer non-binary trans. They/them/theirs. Death doula, clergy-in-training, writing about queer identity, death, hope, praxis, & song lyrics.
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I READ BANNED BOOKS

GENDERQUEER: a memoir (deluxe edition) by Maia Kobabe, read in one day in April 2023

We Do This Til We Free Us (audiobook) by Mariame Kaba, finished in May 2023

Be Gay, Do Comics, an anthology of queer comics, finished in June 2023

This Is How You Lose the Time War (audiobook), by Amal El-Mohtar & Max Gladstone, finished in one day in July 2023


We're each of us alone, to be sure. What can you do but hold your hand out in the dark?

Ursula K. Le Guin, The Wind's Twelve Quarters, Volume 1
remember who you are

The future cannot blame the present, just as the present cannot blame the past. The hope is always here, always alive, but only your fierce caring can fan it into a fire to warm the world.

Susan Cooper, Silver on the Tree
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