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Category: on Decolonizing

a black and white photo of a protest. the person in the forefront has dark skin and a microphone. there is a sign on the left that reads "If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor."
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capitalism makes no sense to me

Posted on July 11, 2023 by Nix Kelley

When I reject the concept that exploitation of people or resources is just, it becomes antithetical to believe that any of us should put anyone else in a positi...

an open sketchbook with a watercolor flower bud on the left page, and the words 'We create our reality from our daily choices; the world consists of bills of realities."
on Decolonizing/on Generational Trauma/on Praxis

when I know better, I have to do better

Posted on July 8, 2023 by Nix Kelley

I have the ego and expectations of a person with the attention of thousands of people, with the actual followers and subscribers of a person with the attention ...

a rocket flies across the evening sky over an ocean, upward from left to right
on Chosen Family/on Decolonizing/on Harm & Reciprocity/on Hope/on Praxis

should we go back to where we started?

Posted on May 9, 2023 by Nix Kelley

We need to learn how to put down the weapons of our thoughts and voices that lead us to separate ourselves from one another.

three round hay bales in a foggy field
on Chosen Family/on Chronic Illness/on Deathwork & Griefwork/on Decolonizing/on Harm & Reciprocity/on Mental Health/on Queerness/the Pandemic

I write what hurts my feelings

Posted on April 25, 2023 by Nix Kelley

The pain leads me to what is true.

a dark path lined by trees, looking toward a break in the horizon bright with sunshine
on Deathwork & Griefwork/on Decolonizing/on Hope/the Work

decolonizing death, part one of many

Posted on October 15, 2022 by Nix Kelley

I am doing my best to find the most harmonious way to hold my candle in the darkness so that you can see it and find me, bringing your own light, so that we hav...

a child reaching through a hole in a wall, stretching out an arm and making eye contact with the camera
on being Exvangelical/on Decolonizing/on Harm & Reciprocity/on Hope/on Praxis/the Work

I could only lead you so far

Posted on October 2, 2022 by Nix Kelley

Do you know what it feels like to be believed in? Have you experienced the incredible fortune of knowing that you matter?

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Nix Kelley
Nix Kelley
Genderqueer non-binary trans. They/them/theirs. Death doula, clergy-in-training, writing about queer identity, death, hope, praxis, & song lyrics.
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I READ BANNED BOOKS

GENDERQUEER: a memoir (deluxe edition) by Maia Kobabe, read in one day in April 2023

We Do This Til We Free Us (audiobook) by Mariame Kaba, finished in May 2023

Be Gay, Do Comics, an anthology of queer comics, finished in June 2023

This Is How You Lose the Time War (audiobook), by Amal El-Mohtar & Max Gladstone, finished in one day in July 2023


We're each of us alone, to be sure. What can you do but hold your hand out in the dark?

Ursula K. Le Guin, The Wind's Twelve Quarters, Volume 1
remember who you are

The future cannot blame the present, just as the present cannot blame the past. The hope is always here, always alive, but only your fierce caring can fan it into a fire to warm the world.

Susan Cooper, Silver on the Tree
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