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a dark-haired man with a mustache in a short sleeve white shirt is sitting on an old wooden manure spreader, holding the reins of a pair of auburn Belgian workhorses. a young child sits next to him turned away from the camera. another child faces the photographer with a big smile.

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the promises we inherit

Posted on January 26, 2023 by Nix Kelley / 0 Comment

One day, my descendants can rest in the shade of the trees I plant.

sapling with five red leaves on a forest floor

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I’m your mother and your father

Posted on January 5, 2023 by Nix Kelley / 0 Comment

I want to love deeply without assuming that all the pain is mine to endure.

a pink paper heart ripped in the middle, hanging on a red and white striped wire against a black background

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I dream of disappointing my mother

Posted on December 11, 2022 by Nix Kelley / 1 Comment

I had a bad dream which was trying to be a good dream, but it was a bad dream because none of it is true.

'never forgotten' spray painted on an old metal door

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TDOR: our safe spaces become violent

Posted on November 20, 2022 by Nix Kelley / 1 Comment

I want to remember my trans siblings today, but instead I have to witness from afar the same thing that always happens to us: violence, death, hatred.

a dark path lined by trees, looking toward a break in the horizon bright with sunshine

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decolonizing death, part one of many

Posted on October 15, 2022 by Nix Kelley / 0 Comment

I am doing my best to find the most harmonious way to hold my candle in the darkness so that you can see it and find me, bringing your own light, so that we hav...

a rusted car in front of a concrete block structure, all covered in climbing vines and other flora

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apocalypse of the self

Posted on September 28, 2022 by Nix Kelley / 1 Comment

This is a reckoning that has needed to happen ever since the first harm was done. This is a chance to do it better this time.