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Category: on Co-Parenting

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on Chosen Family/on Co-Parenting/WTAF

adventures in a chosen family, part two: things fall apart

Posted on February 27, 2023 by Nix Kelley

Things fall apart, and in those moments, I think it’s the people you trust that make the chaos bearable.

oak trees silhouetted against a summer sunset
on Chosen Family/on Co-Parenting/on Generational Trauma/on Harm & Reciprocity/on Neurodivergence/on Praxis

adventures in a chosen family

Posted on August 27, 2022 by Nix Kelley

We do our best to balance the needs of the many against the needs of the few (or the one) — thank you Leonard Nimoy — and this means that sometimes, saying no w...

comic drawing by Effin Birds. there is a bird walking toward the left side of the image. the words 'FUCK THIS SHIT, I'M OUT OF HERE @effinbirds' are drawn on the bottom in a fancy font
on Chronic Illness/on Co-Parenting/on Mental Health/on Rage/the Pandemic

angry

Posted on September 17, 2021 by Nix Kelley

I don’t know how to be angry and kind at the same time, so I pick one or the other, and usually ‘kind’ wins because I was socialized female and I don’t feel com...

hope painted on a rock
on Co-Parenting/on Hope/the Pandemic/the Work

february 17th journal

Posted on February 17, 2021 by Nix Kelley

I’ve finally started asking for feedback on my death doula services page. I still need a name for the service, but the more important thing is WHAT IS IT ...

Don't Give Up
on Co-Parenting/on Hope

january 8th journal

Posted on January 8, 2021 by Nix Kelley

I did not write here yesterday because I was recovering from the tweetstorms about the FUCKING COUP that very nearly happened. And today is full of everyone lau...

dying flower
on Co-Parenting/the Work

january 5th journal

Posted on January 5, 2021 by Nix Kelley

It’s Tuesday, which is phone call day, so I had a bit of phone time with my soon-to-be-twelve-year-old. And ordered her birthday gifts so that at least so...

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Nix Kelley
Nix Kelley
Genderqueer non-binary trans. They/them/theirs. Death doula, clergy-in-training, writing about queer identity, death, hope, praxis, & song lyrics.
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I READ BANNED BOOKS

GENDERQUEER: a memoir (deluxe edition) by Maia Kobabe, read in one day in April 2023

We Do This Til We Free Us (audiobook) by Mariame Kaba, finished in May 2023

Be Gay, Do Comics, an anthology of queer comics, finished in June 2023

This Is How You Lose the Time War (audiobook), by Amal El-Mohtar & Max Gladstone, finished in one day in July 2023


We're each of us alone, to be sure. What can you do but hold your hand out in the dark?

Ursula K. Le Guin, The Wind's Twelve Quarters, Volume 1
remember who you are

The future cannot blame the present, just as the present cannot blame the past. The hope is always here, always alive, but only your fierce caring can fan it into a fire to warm the world.

Susan Cooper, Silver on the Tree
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