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Author: Nix Kelley

Co-parent to multiple kids. Writer. Death doula. Member of the Order of the Good Death. Seeker on the Path of Light. Queer, non-binary, & trans.
a mountain range with some snow-capped peaks. there are sun-suffused clouds behind them, and the sun glows on the lower right.
on Generational Trauma/on Hope

real elvish rope

Posted on September 6, 2023 by Nix Kelley

We cannot take every memory with us. We do not have to take every memory with us.

a photo of the word 'memories', framed in white, lying with a spray of red berries and a white cloth on a dark knit blanket
on Deathwork & Griefwork/on Mental Health

the things we forget on purpose

Posted on August 21, 2023 by Nix Kelley

Part of why I write here is to bleed off some of the pressure of the years of trauma and grief I've experienced, but it's so hard to write when it really hurts.

a black and white photo of a protest. the person in the forefront has dark skin and a microphone. there is a sign on the left that reads "If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor."
on Chosen Family/on Decolonizing/on Generational Trauma/on Harm & Reciprocity/on Neurodivergence/on Praxis/the Work

capitalism makes no sense to me

Posted on July 11, 2023 by Nix Kelley

When I reject the concept that exploitation of people or resources is just, it becomes antithetical to believe that any of us should put anyone else in a positi...

an open sketchbook with a watercolor flower bud on the left page, and the words 'We create our reality from our daily choices; the world consists of bills of realities."
on Decolonizing/on Generational Trauma/on Praxis

when I know better, I have to do better

Posted on July 8, 2023 by Nix Kelley

I have the ego and expectations of a person with the attention of thousands of people, with the actual followers and subscribers of a person with the attention ...

a photo of sunlight off-camera to the left, with a leaning ancient stone in front of the light. there is a grassy field and the sky is blue with some clouds.
on Praxis/Poems/the Cycle of the Seasons/the Work

litha

Posted on June 21, 2023 by Nix Kelley

let it radicalize you, because you are also a choice away from what gives life, or what takes life away.

a four-panel web comic by poorlydrawnlines.com. the scene is outdoors with a few clouds in the blue sky and a few mountains in the distance, with a dark-haired man in the foreground. first panel: 'good morning, sad earth.' says the man. second panel: 'good morning, sad child.' says one of the mountains. third panel: 'hey.' says the man with a frown. fourth panel: 'I'm a sad adult.' says the frowning man, pointing at himself.
on Happiness/on Mental Health/on Neurodivergence

I’ve written myself into a corner

Posted on June 10, 2023 by Nix Kelley

I'm in therapy, THANK THE GODS.

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Nix Kelley
Nix Kelley
Genderqueer non-binary trans. They/them/theirs. Death doula, clergy-in-training, writing about queer identity, death, hope, praxis, & song lyrics.
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I READ BANNED BOOKS

GENDERQUEER: a memoir (deluxe edition) by Maia Kobabe, read in one day in April 2023

We Do This Til We Free Us (audiobook) by Mariame Kaba, finished in May 2023

Be Gay, Do Comics, an anthology of queer comics, finished in June 2023

This Is How You Lose the Time War (audiobook), by Amal El-Mohtar & Max Gladstone, finished in one day in July 2023


We're each of us alone, to be sure. What can you do but hold your hand out in the dark?

Ursula K. Le Guin, The Wind's Twelve Quarters, Volume 1
remember who you are

The future cannot blame the present, just as the present cannot blame the past. The hope is always here, always alive, but only your fierce caring can fan it into a fire to warm the world.

Susan Cooper, Silver on the Tree
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